Ahh….Can you hear that!? It’s the sound of once again having the house to myself. My husband left this morning for yet another work trip. We had just spent 11 days straight together due to his vacation. Eleven days are equivalent to 264 hours. That is a lot of time for a married couple to spend together when one spouse doesn’t have much going on. (That spouse would be me!) Oh the joys of unemployment.
I’m not sure why I love being alone with such intensity. It’s not as if the house is quiet or especially clean when I’m alone, but I enjoy the freedom of being able to have my LOST DVDs playing on the television throughout the day as background noise. That would surely drive my husband insane. It’s not as if I haven’t tried that move before. He prefers Lost much more than other shows I’ve previously been obsessed with such as Big Love, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Tudors, etc…but he still doesn’t want to see the same shows over and over. That is only my disorder.
It’s not just that I have universal control over the remote when my husband is away at work. I can also take a bath in the middle of the day, give myself a pedicure, read blogs…or anything else I feel shy about doing around my husband. I can do it all while blaring 60s music without hearing his complaints!
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE MY HUSBAND, and actually enjoy spending a vast majority of my time with him. He is my best friend and we will have been married for seven years this August. We still have plenty of kinks to work out, but I’m pretty sure we are in this thing for the long haul. Life has given us many blessings throughout our marriage. We hadn’t had any real struggles until this last year. And even then. Our struggles are so minor compared to other’s.
For the first few years of our marriage I worked a full-time corporate job while Aaron worked at a coffee shop and attended college to finish his bachelor’s degree. For three years he awoke before me (coffee drinkers like their coffee in the morning, you know!) and went to bed after me due to evening classes and homework. Three years into marriage and every new term would throw a wrench into our routine. I loved a good routine but it wasn’t going to happen at that point in our life!
When Aaron graduated college he got a normal 8-5 job and we both had a pretty normal routine to our day but he soon took a promotion that involved a long commute and an unfriendly swing shift. 6 years into our marriage and I never wanted to leave Aaron’s side. He was such a hot commodity! 😛 This level of clingy-ness might have contributed to his larger than life ego. (Kidding hubs! Kidding!)
In order to continue climbing that ladder my husband took a job over 150 miles away from where we were currently living. Bend Ore.
Bend is a town of about 80,000 and a resort hotspot to boot. Did I mention that a certain Lost actor actually lives in Bend? Yep. Obsessed. I was really excited for this new chapter in our lives. Lost actor as a neighbor or not. I hoped and prayed and cried and hoped he’d get the job promotion in Bend. He did!
Aaron moved to Central Oregon on New Years Day. I remained in our home hoping it would sell. It never happened. I remained at my job hoping I could find a job in Bend while continuing to bring in some income. It never happened. Aaron and I were now separated for over 5 months! So, I quit my job, prepared to lose our home, and relocated into the apartment that Aaron had been living in. Even though life is uncertain and I’m still unemployed WE COULDN’T BE HAPPIER! No lawns to mow or weeds to pull. I always thought success in life meant home ownership. Well, now I can say, “Been There, Done That! I’ll take an apartment for now!”
Our new life is rich with love and humor. I’m so happy for the time to relax and smell the flowers for a bit. Here is the view today from my balcony:
I hope something nice happens for you today. Blessings!